Why Mac files don't like Freenas...

I could briefly see folders that contained accents in the finder, but they would disappear after several seconds, then reappear 10 seconds later, then disappear again!

...because --  utf-8...

Solution:

rsync -a --iconv=utf-8-mac,utf-8 from-files/ to-files/

(Also, add the charset=utf-8 parameter to rsyncd, so it will accept the --iconv command switch.)

FreeNAS + rsync to ZFS + AFP filesharing = bad idea